It’s Been A While….

To the woman who loved me without a career, a job, or the ability to dress myself, eat, drink and even walk. To the one who loved me just because there’s no because. To the one who doesn’t place my value on external achievements, who loves me irrespective of what I do or don’t do:…

2020: When Keeping Your Distance is Loving

I am late.  I have been running behind on my  “I have learnt” blogging  challenge to myself which was inspired by a reading of Brazilian writer Paolo Coelho’s  blog post  earlier this year. The blog lists 24 universal truths he (or someone who wrote them) has learnt. After going through the list, I thought it would…

#OnLockDown: Friendship Without Borders

I was in the midst of rearranging my mind, shifting the priorities of my heart while reflecting and maybe even crying over lost opportunities as email after email dropped into my inbox, all announcing the same news: we regret to inform you…. Due to these extraordinary circumstances we’ve had to… I was busy trying to…

Caught: Off Guard

This week’s truism  from Paolo Coelho’s blog caught me off guard. All week I have tried to reason with it, to find exceptions to the “rule.”  However, as I stand here alone against the wall. I have to admit, it is true that… “… no matter how hot and steamy a relationship is at first, the passion…

Accept Yourself : You cannot Make Someone Love You

Brazilian Author of the Alchemist Paul Coelho recently shared a blog post about a list of things he’s learnt which have been attributed to him even though he did not write them called I have learned. The post lists 24 life lessons which gave me pause after I read them. I have since decided to…

LOVE: FROM PAIN TO POWER

Beyond the biblical definition of what love is: kind, patient, does not boast, does not think of evil, always hopes, is not self-seeking etc. I have had a serious struggle with love, loving and being loved. At times when thinking of love the words of African-American writer James Baldwin came to mind with his very…

DATING: WITH MY FAMILY

My younger sister and I have often toyed with the idea of me re-entering the dating scene through South Africa’s leading reality dating show: Date My Family, just for fun. Date my family is a show where a bachelor or bachelorette dates three potential mates’ families before they could date them. We love the show because…

SHE’S YOUR MOM: RIGHT?

(pictured; American Actress Tracee-Allen Ross and her mom, singer Diana Ross) One day as I was walking down Grant Avenue I bumped into an old friend. She was standing outside a restaurant having a smoke and talking to someone. We were so surprised to see each other because it had been such a long time…

WEDDING BELLS?: PRAY IT’S THE CORRECT PERSON

  These past few weeks I have had the pleasure of attending my sister’s childhood friends’ wedding. It was in many ways a dream come true for her and somewhat of a fairy-tale wedding since she ended up marrying her childhood sweetheart. The couple had dated for a spell in High school and my mother…

LOVE STORIES: FOR YOUR EARS ONLY

I have considered a number of titles for this post. I have thought endlessly about using other people’s words to attract your attention. I thought maybe a play on So Long  A letter (1981) a title of the only book published by Miriam Ba, paired with, because I love pairs, Junot Diaz’s  This is how you lose…